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Girls know how to have fun
As I wrote in a previous port I am currently in Vegas on holidays. Yesterday I went to see “Mamma Mia” a fun musical comedy based on music by ABBA. I really enjoyed the show, but that isn’t what I want to write about. You see, in the play three mature women who used to be best friends reunite and have a lot of fun remembering the good old days, behaving as if they still were young girls.
This situation isn’t unique to the play, it happens all the time. You can go to any cafe anywhere in the world and you will see groups of women having much fun and laughing. This rarely happens with men. We are much more serious, we feel silly if we behave foolishly. We have to be strong, in control. In many ways that is sad. I am sure that we would enjoy having fun like children again, but we refuse ourselves that luxury. I still remember the last time I felt like a child. A couple of friends and I had traveled to Xalapa to visit a customer. Suddenly, someone shouted “the last one to get to restaurant pays the bill” and we all started to run, pushing the others to avoid arriving last. We had a lot of fun but it made me think about all the time during which I hadn’t felt being a kid again.
There is a great French song, “Évidemment” performed by France Gall but composed by her late husband Michel Berger that summarizes the situation quite nicely, “We still laugh at silly things, obviously, but not like before”.
Women do not seem to suffer this problem. They are not as afraid of ridicule as most men are and as a result they have more fun. Good for them! This is something we men should learn from.